Dear Girls

Dear Girls

Intimate Tales, Untold Secrets, and Advice for Living your Best Life

Book - 2019
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"In her hit Netflix comedy special Baby Cobra, an eight-month pregnant Ali Wong resonated so heavily that she became a popular Halloween costume. Wong told the world her remarkably unfiltered thoughts on marriage, sex, Asian culture, working women, and why you never see new mom comics on stage but you sure see plenty of new dads. The sharp insights and humor are even more personal in this completely original collection. She shares the wisdom she's learned from a life in comedy and reveals stories from her life off stage, including the brutal singles life in New York (i.e. the inevitable confrontation with erectile dysfunction), reconnecting with her roots (and drinking snake blood) in Vietnam, tales of being a wild child growing up in San Francisco, and parenting war stories. Though addressed to her daughters, Ali Wong's letters are absurdly funny, surprisingly moving, and enlightening (and disgusting) for all"-- Provided by publisher.
Publisher: New York :, Random House,, 2019
Edition: First edition
ISBN: 9780525508830
Characteristics: xiii, 216 pages ; 22 cm


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In the standup comedian’s humorous and heartfelt letters to her daughters, she covers everything they need to know in life: the unpleasant details of dating, how to be a working mom in a male-dominated profession, and how she trapped their dad.

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May 24, 2020

A quick, fun, and funny read. Written as a letter to her two daughters, in her memoir Wong takes us through her childhood, her early days in stand-up comedy, and the romance and relationship with her husband. Very open and sometimes graphic like Wong's comedy, but also touching and poignant, especially in regards to her family and her Asian American cultural upbringing in San Francisco.

mazinwhistler Feb 03, 2020

The book is crass, candid and splendid to read. I was in stiches most of the time while reading it! Written as a letter to her two daughters, Ali Wong, fills us in on her life to date - I love that she doesn't hold back and the disclaimer to her daughters that they should not read this until they 21 (or maybe never I think!). Since reading her book I've checked her on You Tube and now would love to go see her live - highly entertaining and worth reading. Be warned - she is pretty graphic most of her descriptions.

Jan 28, 2020

I read this book a$$ backwards, reading anecdotes from ali wong without seeing a moment of her standup. now i feel like i know far more about *parts* of her than people should, except her husband (and maybe her gynecologist.) ali wong is dedicated to honing her craft, a loving wife and mother, fiercely proud of her heritage, and kinda wacky, i enjoyed her brazen honesty. one of these days maybe I'll actually see her in action.

KatieD_KCMO Jan 22, 2020

An entertaining look into Ali Wong's brain and the experiences that shaped her. A quick, hilarious read.

Jan 04, 2020

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Dec 19, 2019

A smart and sassy read. I'm really enjoying her bits of advice -- like how to pick a good Chinese restaurant! Especially liked her reference to Hedwig and the angry inch!

Dec 19, 2019

Delightful read. Not sure Ms. Wong's daughters will be comfortable reading this anytime soon, but it is a wonderful love letter to them that can be fully appreciated by mothers long done with raising their own children.

IndyPL_CarriG Dec 14, 2019

Ali Wong gives us a hilarious and unflinching look at her life as a comedian, woman, daughter of an immigrant, foodie, mother, and wife in this memoir addressed to her two young daughters. Dear Girls is not for the demure or easily offended - Wong revels in describing the grossest parts of childbirth and sex and she has quite the flair for description. Despite the almost adolescent glee at gross humor, a lot of the book is quite touching and inspirational as well. Wong discusses her miscarriage and the effect it had on her, she tells the reader of the importance of travel and experiencing different cultures, and she talks seriously about the difficulties of being a comic as a woman. She is perhaps at her most touching and kind when she talks about the difficult relationship she had with her mother as a teen and her later understanding of what a challenging life her mother had as an immigrant trying to raise wild child teens in a culture she didn’t always understand.

Despite all the sweet touching moments and cultural insights and inspiration, this is at its heart a very funny book. Wong has a great mix of self-love and self-deprecation that makes it easy to laugh with her rather than at her. Bottom line – this book is hysterical and also good and sweet. It is super gross sometimes so maybe don’t share it with your squeamish or prudish friends. Or do if you like to watch them squirm.

liljables Dec 10, 2019

You may know Ali Wong as the comedian who was extremely pregnant in both of her Netflix standup specials (go watch Baby Cobra and Hard Knock Wife NOW if you haven't already), or from her charming rom-com Always Be My Maybe, which kind of broke the internet earlier this year with its Keanu Reeves cameo. She has fast become one of my favourite comedians, so I obviously had to pick up her book ASAP when it was released this fall.

Dear Girls: Intimate Tales, Untold Secrets, and Advice for Living Your Best Life is, in fact, a series of letters for Ali's daughters, those very babies that were in utero during her specials. These letters run the gamut of parental advice - in her signature style, Wong holds nothing back when sharing her failures and successes in school, comedy, dating, travel, and fame.

Dear Girls is an excellent addition to the already impressive list of memoirs written by hilarious women; Ali Wong brings something new to the table by never (EVER) shying away from the gruesome physical details of her dating life, the birth of her children, or child-rearing. We all KNOW these things are gross at times, but Wong revels in that knowledge. This woman can also write about food like her life depends on it (which, of course, it does), and more generally, she can really write - considering there's a whole chapter about how Wong is secretly stupid, your girl can really craft a sentence.

Finally, I want to state the obvious: you do not need to be a woman to enjoy this book. You do not need to be a mother to enjoy this book. You do not need to be an Asian comedian with children to enjoy this book. To paraphrase many smart people, the more uncompromisingly specific a story is, the more it ends up touching the bigger universal truths. PLEASE carry this notion with you whenever you find yourself thinking, "this book isn't for me."

Nov 17, 2019


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